ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
FOUR. When you say, "I love you," mean it.
FIVE. When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.
EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dream. People who don't have dreams don't have much.
NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.
TEN.. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives.
TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.
THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk..
FIFTEEN. Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson
SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and responsibility for all your actions.
EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
TWENTY-ONE. Spend some time alone.
Contributed by Nancy
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Saturday, January 06, 2007
Friday, January 05, 2007
SIGHT Unseen
Reasons for my absence at any planned formal affairs.
These include Weddings, Barmitzvahs, or any other "family" or political events.
1. FAMILY. I do not feel part of what a family is portrayed as. To me, a family member or relative is one whose DNA comes closer to matching my DNA, than most other people on this planet. I have no relationship or friendship with with any family member except maybe the person called my "brother". Otherwise, there is nobody who knows me, nor do I know anybody. The only exposure I have with these members are during planned formal political events. I otherwise have little to nothing in common with any family member. I grew up alone, and isolated in "hell".
2. EMOTIONAL. It is severe torture, for me to contribute to any celebration of love-finding, or new life, when I, myself have felt and or have been deprived, abused, and persecuted for most of my life.
I crave the energy I earn from interacting with people. Many people around me take this for granted. It is hard for me to give energy to others, if I have not received any. I have always been starving for companionship and energy. Crowds and loud music or noise disturb me greatly.
During the last Wedding, I attended, I felt trapped in torture. The doors enabling me to leave were locked. The noise was painfully loud. Many pictures were taken of me, and with my friend. To this day, I have never seen any pictures of that event. However, it gave me the opportunity to establish my infrastructure in my now current home. I also had the comfort of a good friend with me. One of the most depressing and lonely experiences I had in my life was the last Bar Mitzvah(s) I attended, in 1993.
3. SOCIAL. I have not experienced and or known of such events as "hanging out", "going out", "making out", "dating", or "clubbing". I never understood what "The Prom" is. I do not understand, or understand the feeling or experience of romance, or most of the enjoyment of sex. I do not know what "being in love" means.
Too many negative emotions are associated with people related to me with whom I met while growing up. I have a life and home for the first time. I do not want to be reminded of my previous painful existence that I once endured.
4. PHONY & ARTIFICIAL. Perhaps, long ago, in a different world, a large group of people, who had a continuous interaction with each other, much in common, and a close emotional bond, would feel the passion and joy in getting together in celebration for a mutually happy event.
Today, these events are decadent staged spectacles, that have little connection with reality. Wealthy people get together to be seen at these political opportunities. I find it ridiculous to wear a tie, or jacket. It would cost hundreds of dollars, and would be worn once. I wear free T-shirt, shorts, and sneakers to my office desk at my employer. I do not conform for political reasons. I am not religious or romantic. Marriage is an event that gives people certain legal rights.
5. TIME & MONEY. It is decadent and disgusting for so much time, money, resources and effort to be given for such a shallow and inefficient use of a unity opportunity.
It is absurd for me to take valuable time off from work, where I net $900/month, to use round-trip airfare between Florida and NY, rent a hotel room in LI, and pay for every meal during my stay, just to sacrifice my time of a few hours. I now earn enough money independently, to comfortably support myself. I am not in a position to support someone else.
6. COMMUNICATION. At these events, people who otherwise never meet or communicate with each-other, get together. Yet, they can't communicate with another due to the loud noise, crowds, and distraction. It is a ludicrous and obscene waste of opportunity.
It causes me severe loneliness and depression. Communication is the most important subject of my life. It is tremendously rare, that someone is willing to spend time with, or care for me. Recent names of these people include Catherine, Nancy, Patricia, and Richard. It makes no sense to me to be brought together in a rare meeting, with an opportunity of rare communication, and have that very communication be made impossible. It therefore makes any attempt for follow-up opportunity futile.
I have a hard enough time relating with a person one on one in space during silence. I understand most people, especially women, can communicate visually, physically, or non-verbally. I do not. They dance. I do not dance, nor do I understand the purpose or pleasure in a gregarious environment. I treasure written and spoken communication. It causes me even more emotional deprivation and torture when the people around me, seem to be "having a good time" or "enjoying themselves" I do not understand what these concepts mean. I gain no benefit from literally seeing people, or being seen.
IN CLOSING. The only incentive to come up to Long Island in August, is to get together with Nancy. I treasure our friendship. I do not love NY. I treasure the amount of time, energy, trust, and honesty shown by my brother. I do not want to do anything to compromise my friendship and or relationship with Nancy and Richard. I too have expressed to my Sister, and Sister-in-law, of their great value to me, and my appreciation of them.
These include Weddings, Barmitzvahs, or any other "family" or political events.
1. FAMILY. I do not feel part of what a family is portrayed as. To me, a family member or relative is one whose DNA comes closer to matching my DNA, than most other people on this planet. I have no relationship or friendship with with any family member except maybe the person called my "brother". Otherwise, there is nobody who knows me, nor do I know anybody. The only exposure I have with these members are during planned formal political events. I otherwise have little to nothing in common with any family member. I grew up alone, and isolated in "hell".
2. EMOTIONAL. It is severe torture, for me to contribute to any celebration of love-finding, or new life, when I, myself have felt and or have been deprived, abused, and persecuted for most of my life.
I crave the energy I earn from interacting with people. Many people around me take this for granted. It is hard for me to give energy to others, if I have not received any. I have always been starving for companionship and energy. Crowds and loud music or noise disturb me greatly.
During the last Wedding, I attended, I felt trapped in torture. The doors enabling me to leave were locked. The noise was painfully loud. Many pictures were taken of me, and with my friend. To this day, I have never seen any pictures of that event. However, it gave me the opportunity to establish my infrastructure in my now current home. I also had the comfort of a good friend with me. One of the most depressing and lonely experiences I had in my life was the last Bar Mitzvah(s) I attended, in 1993.
3. SOCIAL. I have not experienced and or known of such events as "hanging out", "going out", "making out", "dating", or "clubbing". I never understood what "The Prom" is. I do not understand, or understand the feeling or experience of romance, or most of the enjoyment of sex. I do not know what "being in love" means.
Too many negative emotions are associated with people related to me with whom I met while growing up. I have a life and home for the first time. I do not want to be reminded of my previous painful existence that I once endured.
4. PHONY & ARTIFICIAL. Perhaps, long ago, in a different world, a large group of people, who had a continuous interaction with each other, much in common, and a close emotional bond, would feel the passion and joy in getting together in celebration for a mutually happy event.
Today, these events are decadent staged spectacles, that have little connection with reality. Wealthy people get together to be seen at these political opportunities. I find it ridiculous to wear a tie, or jacket. It would cost hundreds of dollars, and would be worn once. I wear free T-shirt, shorts, and sneakers to my office desk at my employer. I do not conform for political reasons. I am not religious or romantic. Marriage is an event that gives people certain legal rights.
5. TIME & MONEY. It is decadent and disgusting for so much time, money, resources and effort to be given for such a shallow and inefficient use of a unity opportunity.
It is absurd for me to take valuable time off from work, where I net $900/month, to use round-trip airfare between Florida and NY, rent a hotel room in LI, and pay for every meal during my stay, just to sacrifice my time of a few hours. I now earn enough money independently, to comfortably support myself. I am not in a position to support someone else.
6. COMMUNICATION. At these events, people who otherwise never meet or communicate with each-other, get together. Yet, they can't communicate with another due to the loud noise, crowds, and distraction. It is a ludicrous and obscene waste of opportunity.
It causes me severe loneliness and depression. Communication is the most important subject of my life. It is tremendously rare, that someone is willing to spend time with, or care for me. Recent names of these people include Catherine, Nancy, Patricia, and Richard. It makes no sense to me to be brought together in a rare meeting, with an opportunity of rare communication, and have that very communication be made impossible. It therefore makes any attempt for follow-up opportunity futile.
I have a hard enough time relating with a person one on one in space during silence. I understand most people, especially women, can communicate visually, physically, or non-verbally. I do not. They dance. I do not dance, nor do I understand the purpose or pleasure in a gregarious environment. I treasure written and spoken communication. It causes me even more emotional deprivation and torture when the people around me, seem to be "having a good time" or "enjoying themselves" I do not understand what these concepts mean. I gain no benefit from literally seeing people, or being seen.
IN CLOSING. The only incentive to come up to Long Island in August, is to get together with Nancy. I treasure our friendship. I do not love NY. I treasure the amount of time, energy, trust, and honesty shown by my brother. I do not want to do anything to compromise my friendship and or relationship with Nancy and Richard. I too have expressed to my Sister, and Sister-in-law, of their great value to me, and my appreciation of them.
Monday, January 01, 2007
Improve your SIGHT
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Saturday, December 30, 2006
Don't Loose SIGHT
I enjoy biking. It is valuable to my health and happiness. It is more efficient to accomplish exercise, and transportation or work simultaneously. It also preserves our environment, and saves us money. It is not dangerous to drive my bike to and from my place of employment. What IS dangerous, IS that a protective bike path is not provided for me. If I die from a car rider, it will be the fault of the people in my town, county, and state, for not recognizing my rights and protection. If I die over the I-4, It will not be surprising to find an "ANDREW LERNER Memorial Bike-way" created over the bridge I once drove.
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As I was biking the other day, another person yelled out of his car window "side-walk". This bothers me, because it shows how people in this country do not take responsibility for their actions. There are no "side-walks"! And the very name indicates that they are for WALKING. Write to your government representatives about the need to protect individuals from automobile users. If you see me biking when you are riding your car, make sure you do not hit and kill me. It is your responsibility as much as it is mine. The rules that govern our public roads and streets is that it be SHARED with bicyclists.
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This society does not value the individual. It worships imagery and instant gratification country is loosing sight of the right of the individual by phobic re-defining what marriage is, prohibiting the burning of a red, white, and blue rag, or having it worshiped in schools. It is more important to find homes and jobs for people in our country, than to just send them off to die in Iraq. It is why irresponsible selfish arrogant people such as George W. Bush are in positions of power. You, the automobile user, is the reason our environment is being destroyed, and we are at war in Iraq. Put compact fluorescent bulbs in your home. See the light. Feel the freedom from oil dependence.
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I need a partner for whom we can help each-other reach our individual and mutual goals. However, as an Aspie, it is so overwhelmingly frustrating to find people into my life. I therefore, am no longer actively bothering to find anyone. This society does not value the individual. Each individual in this society values themselves!
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As I was biking the other day, another person yelled out of his car window "side-walk". This bothers me, because it shows how people in this country do not take responsibility for their actions. There are no "side-walks"! And the very name indicates that they are for WALKING. Write to your government representatives about the need to protect individuals from automobile users. If you see me biking when you are riding your car, make sure you do not hit and kill me. It is your responsibility as much as it is mine. The rules that govern our public roads and streets is that it be SHARED with bicyclists.
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This society does not value the individual. It worships imagery and instant gratification country is loosing sight of the right of the individual by phobic re-defining what marriage is, prohibiting the burning of a red, white, and blue rag, or having it worshiped in schools. It is more important to find homes and jobs for people in our country, than to just send them off to die in Iraq. It is why irresponsible selfish arrogant people such as George W. Bush are in positions of power. You, the automobile user, is the reason our environment is being destroyed, and we are at war in Iraq. Put compact fluorescent bulbs in your home. See the light. Feel the freedom from oil dependence.
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I need a partner for whom we can help each-other reach our individual and mutual goals. However, as an Aspie, it is so overwhelmingly frustrating to find people into my life. I therefore, am no longer actively bothering to find anyone. This society does not value the individual. Each individual in this society values themselves!
Saturday, December 23, 2006
Day Eight (8) Last Day
An L.E.D. light lit for eight days, uses LESS oil than a conventional light bulb does in one day! With today's forign oil dependence, we could use the oil used in the rededicated temple. That oil gave eight days of light with one day's supply. This is what is celebrated during Hanukkah, The Festival of Lights. Put LEDs in your menorah. See the light. Feel the freedom FROM oil dependence.Friday, December 22, 2006
Day Seven
Click on any character, letter, number, word, phrase, sentence or title that the following happens:1) It is a different color than the normal text, which currently means orange instead of brown.
- 2) Your cursor turns from an arrow to a hand when placed over these (characters)
3) When placing the cursor on the (hyperlinks) it becomes underlined and changes color.
Thursday, December 21, 2006
Day Six
Open Note-Pad or Word-Pad, and do the following: Copy the symbols below, and paste them into a new document.
It's the end of the world as we know it!
Truth or Consequences
The three men quickly entered and upon finding the mirror, Bill Clintonstepped up and said, "I think I'm the most intelligent of us three," and he suddenly found the keys to a brand new Bentley in his hands.Al Gore stepped up and said, "I think I'm the most ambitious of us three,"and in an instant, he was surrounded by a pile of money to fund his next Presidential Campaign.Excited over the possibility of having a wish come true, George W. Bushlooked into the mirror and said, "I think...," and was promptly sucked intothe mirror.
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Wednesday, December 20, 2006
Day Five
This picture is of a 78rpm record that was purchased for my siblings in 1948. Here are some pictures for you to look at. You can see each of them one at a time, by clicking each of their descriptions, one at a time, with the left button on your mouse. If you use your right hand, you would press the left button with your right index finger momentarily, so it will make a click sound. To return to this page or screen display, that you are currently looking at, you can click the "back" button, on the upper left of your screen, showing you the picture that you selected. Here are the individual descriptions below for you to "click" on. They are called "links" because they connect you to another screen display for your sight. http://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/609/275/1600/AfterWork.0.jpg
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Tuesday, December 19, 2006
Day Four
Being Aspie, makes it difficult for me to know how other people feel. I constantly told Pitti and to explain her feelings. She finally does, and tells me that because I am not empathetic to her feelings, she is leaving me. I feel sorry for her that she feels comfortable wallowing in her self pity. She lives in her own un-communicable world like Laurie, helped by their excessive TV watching. She gave me the gift to the left a year ago.
Monday, December 18, 2006
Friday, December 15, 2006
Last Day Before
When Richard was in the car, ready to drive to the airport, and back to NYC, I gave him two windshield ice-breakers. I love Florida, and am glad that I am not in NYC any more.
Sunday, November 26, 2006
Barbie was born in 1958
It was in 1958 that the patent for Barbie was obtained. This would be a fashion doll unlike any of her time. She would be long limbed, shapely and beautiful, all of this and only 11 ½" tall.
Paper fashion dolls of the times would give way to a three dimensional beauty with a wardrobe of unsurpassed quality. Ruth and Elliot would name their new fashion doll after their own daughter, Barbie. Barbie dolls’ soon to be boyfriend Ken, would be named after their son Ken.
In 1959, Barbie doll would make her way to the New York Toy Show and receive a cool reception from the toy buyers. She would be viewed as risky to buyers since she was not the typical style selling baby doll of the times. Upon seeing Barbie on store shelves, the public decided differently. By 1960, the mood would change and the orders started pouring in to Mattel. It took several years for Mattel to catch up with the demand for Barbie. Within ten years, the public purchased $500 million worth of Barbie products.
Paper fashion dolls of the times would give way to a three dimensional beauty with a wardrobe of unsurpassed quality. Ruth and Elliot would name their new fashion doll after their own daughter, Barbie. Barbie dolls’ soon to be boyfriend Ken, would be named after their son Ken.
In 1959, Barbie doll would make her way to the New York Toy Show and receive a cool reception from the toy buyers. She would be viewed as risky to buyers since she was not the typical style selling baby doll of the times. Upon seeing Barbie on store shelves, the public decided differently. By 1960, the mood would change and the orders started pouring in to Mattel. It took several years for Mattel to catch up with the demand for Barbie. Within ten years, the public purchased $500 million worth of Barbie products.
Sunday, November 19, 2006
Meg Ryan was born today
Meg Ryan (born Margaret Mary Emily Hyra on November 19, 1961 in Fairfield, Connecticut) is an American actress who specializes in romantic comedies, but has also worked in other film genres. Click on the picture.
Saturday, November 18, 2006
Criptic
Open Note-Pad or Word-Pad, and do the following: Copy the symbols below, and paste them into a new document.
It's the end of the world as we know it!
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It's the end of the world as we know it!
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Saturday, November 11, 2006
ANTHEM THEME
ROCK AND ROLL
This song best represents my soul, life story, and favorite music.
11/11/1971 is when this song was released. This is 35 years ago today!
Click on any character, letter, number, word, phrase, sentence or title that the following happens:
This was originally posted in 2005.
This song best represents my soul, life story, and favorite music.
11/11/1971 is when this song was released. This is 35 years ago today!
Click on any character, letter, number, word, phrase, sentence or title that the following happens:
- It is a different color than the normal text, which currently means orange instead of brown.
- Your cursor turns from an arrow to a hand when placed over these (characters)
- When placing the cursor on the (hyperlinks) it becomes underlined and changes color.
Then please read the new page that appears on your screen.
This was originally posted in 2005.
Friday, November 10, 2006
Good News!
If George W. Bush and Richard Cheny kill each other during a Quayle hunt after January 30, Nancy Pelosi will become the President of The United States!
Most valuable Link
Andrew,
Thanks for the links in your blog to my George W. Bush pictorial essay. Your blog made my top 50 referrers in the last 50 days.--
DTM
Thanks for the links in your blog to my George W. Bush pictorial essay. Your blog made my top 50 referrers in the last 50 days.--
DTM
Wednesday, November 08, 2006
HAPPINESS IS A BLUE USA
1) DEMOCRATS TAKE OVER CONTROL OF THE HOUSE OF REPRESENTATIVES
2) DEMOCRATS TAKE OVER CONTROL OF THE SENATE
3) NANCY PILOSI IS THE NEW SPEAKER OF THE HOUSE
4) DONALD RUMSFELD RESIGNS
5) HILLARY REELECTED IN A LANDSLIDE
6) JEB BUSH IS REPLACED AS GOVERNOR
I CAN NOT BE MORE ECSTATIC!
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Monday, November 06, 2006
Press my number at the touch tone
When using a rotary telephone, you can DIAL a number when you hear a DIAL tone. When using a push button phone you should therefore only be able to PRESS or TOUCH a number when you hear a TOUCH tone. I propose the tone be called a CALLING tone, so that a number may be CALLED.
In December 2003, 718-347-3237 had been disconnected after more than 10.5 years in service. That was my last traditional telephone service, and was in Bellerose Queens. I only had my $15.00 Sprint Plan. The 750 Anytime Minutes Include Long Distance, 50 Free 1-way Text Messages, pcs Voice Command, PCS Wireless Web-caller ID, Call Waiting, three-way Calling, pcs voice-mail. Additional Anytime Minutes are $.15 Per Minute. I consistently only used, as little as 250 minutes per month. The first telephone number of My Samsung flip phone had the new Queens area code of 347. That is the same number as my land-line prefix of 347 for that area. I still have the same cell service plan, and once again, I usually only use about 250 minutes per month.
Since 2002, my sister has had a traditional telephone number with the 347 prefix! Again, that is the same prefix and area code I had in Bellerose. In addition to that, "Belleview" is the town listed on my telephone records for my "calls" with her! Both of these towns have the same first five letters, and have the same telephone prefix! Bellerose NY and Belleview FL have "347" and "Belle" in common.
My cell phone was soon changed to the nearby Long Island area code of 516. I am in Seminole county Florida. Now, I also have calls anywhere in the US, Puerto Rico, Canada, and Europe @ $15/month for up to 500 minutes. This VoIP also includes Free features such as: voice-mail Plus 3-Way Calling Call Waiting Call Forwarding Caller ID with Name 911 Dialing. It is ironic, that even though I advertised my unlimited telephone usage to attract tenants for my house, my tenants have not been interested in using it at all.
This was originally posted October 14, 2005.
In December 2003, 718-347-3237 had been disconnected after more than 10.5 years in service. That was my last traditional telephone service, and was in Bellerose Queens. I only had my $15.00 Sprint Plan. The 750 Anytime Minutes Include Long Distance, 50 Free 1-way Text Messages, pcs Voice Command, PCS Wireless Web-caller ID, Call Waiting, three-way Calling, pcs voice-mail. Additional Anytime Minutes are $.15 Per Minute. I consistently only used, as little as 250 minutes per month. The first telephone number of My Samsung flip phone had the new Queens area code of 347. That is the same number as my land-line prefix of 347 for that area. I still have the same cell service plan, and once again, I usually only use about 250 minutes per month.
Since 2002, my sister has had a traditional telephone number with the 347 prefix! Again, that is the same prefix and area code I had in Bellerose. In addition to that, "Belleview" is the town listed on my telephone records for my "calls" with her! Both of these towns have the same first five letters, and have the same telephone prefix! Bellerose NY and Belleview FL have "347" and "Belle" in common.
My cell phone was soon changed to the nearby Long Island area code of 516. I am in Seminole county Florida. Now, I also have calls anywhere in the US, Puerto Rico, Canada, and Europe @ $15/month for up to 500 minutes. This VoIP also includes Free features such as: voice-mail Plus 3-Way Calling Call Waiting Call Forwarding Caller ID with Name 911 Dialing. It is ironic, that even though I advertised my unlimited telephone usage to attract tenants for my house, my tenants have not been interested in using it at all.
This was originally posted October 14, 2005.
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